Date : Wednesday, 16 March 2011
Time : 8:59 am
Title : Boy-Girl Relationship

who decides what make a good relationship? does going out with friends mean you do not love your partner as much? does asking your partner endless questions make you a heartless girlfriend? does not knowing how to cook make you the worst girlfriend in the whole wide world? or perhaps, does it mean you are a bad, bad girlfriend/boyfriend if you cheat on them?

who decides, really?

my friends asked me the other day how i manage my relationship when me myself was in a relationshitsxz! -.-

"you're the only one i have now cause there's nothing could replace you"

at this point of time, he already decided that i am the best. no comparison to other girls even. but i wonder whether it would still remain this way when years to come, and better able to make judgements. would he compare me to other girls? would my friends question me about my capbilities as a girlfreind? would they ever doubt me? would my boyfriend blame me if things do not go his way?

i keep telling myself each time that what i feel is good may not necessarily be good for my boyfriend. sure, i want this and that but do he want the same this and that?

wah at that point of time, i feel like giving up but no!

all i can say is that, whenever you're in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it and that factor is attitude.

you know, in your life, you meet people. some you never think about again. some, you wonder what happened to them. there are some that you wonder if they ever think about you and then there are some you wish you never had to think about again but you do.

you see, guys are more practical; act by the mind, not the heart when they are in the relationship, they show their love to women through doing things. in contrast, women are more perceptive and sensitive than men. they have very different points of view. women tend to think more than the guys do. but they make a good couple. in the real world, it is not easy to find true love; therefore, we should treasure every relationship we have. however, some people do not know how to maintain a good relationship. not even me!

so, here are few points to make in improving this relationship so that both of us can enjoy each other better.

from the beginning, a couple has to be realistic to each other. you must not try to turn your partner into something he or she is not. you should love each other for what you are. there is more to your partner than what meets the eye.

secondly, you should always talk thing out and learn from previous experiences. couples fight when they do not express their feeling clearly. therefore, it’s important to learn to express to each other well, so that your partners understand why you are angry, hurt, or happy. don't make promises you cannot keep. if your partner starts to feel that he/she is not important enough to you, you may just lose him/her. you should always stay committed to each other.

in addition, i think couples should have some common things they do together. if not, they should make an effort to do things together. i believe through those activities, you can understand each other better and it will help prevent misunderstandings in the future. when you are in a relationship, you have to show your love. there are thousands of ways to show your love; buy them gifts or candies or perfume every now and then. these may be old fashioned and common but they are good time favorites, even if you have been together for many years. it is wonderful to continue showing someone that you care for him or her.

respect is the key to develop a relationship. you have to learn to respect each other in your daily lives because love is about respecting each other's feelings and being sensitive to each other at all times. sitting on jealousy would destroy a relationship. jealousy is like a poison that slowly spreads through the relationship before finally killing it. you have to trust your partner because love is about trusting.

many couples like to compare their partners with their ex-girlfriends or ex-boyfriends. this would be suicidal for the relationship. sbringing up the past. this would cause the other party to think that you might want to get back with your ex. whenever you are about to start a new relationship, you must bury the past.

finally, be honest to your partner. when you are hurt, say so, and when you are angry, tell him/her, without getting hysterical. love is also about honesty and a relationship without honesty probably is not worth it because it is not the true love.

in conclusion, i think we have to keep the above points in mind to develop any relationships. love is about sharing. when we are in love, we must treasure the relationship. there is no perfect couple in the world but we can learn and do our best to be one. it is not easy to find love, so once when we do find it, we have to take it seriously and put a lot of effort in nurturing it. do not throw away the gift and deprive yourself.

so you see, at the end of the day, no matter what happens, you are still the best and the best judge is nobody else but your own partner. do not feel discouraged if you are not doing what others are doing for their partner. as long as you are doing something for your partner, you are good enough.

Date : Wednesday, 2 March 2011
Time : 11:55 pm
Title : baby's 17th birthday